Seen on Facebook today (it was a “favorite memory” for the writer from a year ago) — and let me make this clear, this is not about the writer, but about our society:
I would like to invent some truly permanent ink and a rubber stamp that reads “Creeper.” I would like to make the stamp about the size of a person’s forehead. I would like us all to carry one around, just in case. I think it would save a lot of people from a lot of awkward situations.
Funny, right? It got 35 likes originally and 3 on the repost.
Now do some substitutions.
Change “Creeper” to “Terrorist” and the tag to #patriotswatchingoutforamerica.
Change “Creeper” to “Bitch” and the tag to #menwatchingoutformen.
Change “Creeper” to (a word I won’t even type here) and the tag to #whiteswatchingoutforwhites.
Still find it funny?
Nope. Not funny at all. But because the original target was, presumably, white men, that was OK.
Why does casual misandry get a pass?
Yes, it hits home. I’ve been accused of being a “creeper” for no more reason than I’m a big-and-tall socially-awkward lifelong bachelor. I already live the ostracism that comes with that, and nobody’s got a rubber stamp or permanent ink waiting for me. And I haven’t done anything – I know people who’ve done far worse and never got that label, either.
Who judges a “creeper”? Who judges the judges?
Just as throwing around the word “Terrorist” creates terrorists, throwing around insults at innocent men creates MRAs. I’m not going that way, but I am very sensitive to the fact that all men get blamed for a subset. And a few more get tarred without proof simply because they’re male.
Everyone is unique. Everyone is an individual. Labels are corrosive. Our society needs to stop condoning labels — all of them, even if you’re labelling a “privileged majority”.
I’m going to get pounded for this, because people are going to read into it things that I don’t mean. As the cartoonist Scott Adams likes to say, “feel free to argue with what you hallucinate that I said”. The floor’s open.