This is a repost from my Facebook feed, so sorry to those who are seeing it twice.
Some thoughts from a lifelong bachelor on today’s SCOTUS ruling…
1. I’m glad for my friends whose marriages are now going to be legally recognized in all 50 states.
2. But to start at the beginning, the seeds of this whole issue were sown when our officially-sectarian country took on the role of administering the religious rite of marriage. Once that happened, we started on a course that would inevitably end up with debate about what marriage is — state sanction of cohabitation, or religious rite tied to procreation.
3. Once it became clear that we couldn’t untangle the two, it now became an economic and social issue. Married couples gain certain legal advantages — power of attorney during illness and after death and tax rate differences come to mind — that could not legally be withheld on the basis of the genders of the members of the marriage.
4. And that leads us to today. It had to happen — basically, this is an extension of the idea that legal rights cannot be bound by gender. Just as interracial marriage laws were struck down because rights cannot be bound by race. Yes, we’ve been down this road before.
Do we now have a situation where some couples are married by law but not by church? Sure — and we always have, as some churches don’t recognize secular divorce. This is no different. And I would hope we never force churches to perform religious marriage ceremonies, or require couples to have a church sign off on their marriage (we are, technically, a secular nation, even if some politicians don’t know that).
The bottom line is this – if you’re opposed to gay marriage, don’t marry someone of your own gender. What other people do has no impact on your marriage. And what your god says about “them” doesn’t, either. We are not a theocracy yet.